The following questions are meant to help reflect on a relationship and recognize possible signs of abuse. If you find yourself answering ‘yes’ to several of them, it may indicate that you’re in an abusive or unsafe situation.
Do I feel nervous or anxious around my partner, as if I have to “keep the peace” to avoid setting them off?
Does my partner ever make me feel unsafe, threatened, or afraid — even if they haven’t laid a hand on me?
Have they ever yelled at me, broken things, or punched walls during an argument?
Has my partner ever physically hurt me or made me fear they might?
Have they ever threatened to harm me, our children, pets, or themselves?
Do I avoid talking to friends or family because my partner doesn’t want me to?
Have they tried to control where I go, who I see, or how long I’m away from home?
Do I feel like I have to justify every decision or explain my whereabouts?
Have they accused me of cheating or flirting when I haven’t?
Do they constantly criticize or belittle me, especially in front of others?
Have I started to believe that I’m the problem, or that I deserve the way I’m treated?
Have they blamed their behavior on stress, alcohol, or my actions?
Do they twist reality and make me question my memory or judgment?
Do I lie to others about how things really are at home?
Do I make excuses for their behavior — to friends, doctors, teachers, or even myself?
Have they ever destroyed something important to me, like personal belongings or sentimental items?
Has my partner threatened to take the children away if I try to leave?
Do they make me feel like I’d never survive without them — financially, emotionally, or socially?
Has my partner ever prevented me from working, studying, or volunteering?
Have they ever promised to change, especially after a violent or frightening episode?
Do I feel numb, isolated, or emotionally shut down most of the time?
Do I stay quiet or avoid conflict just to get through the day safely?
Have they ever imitated hurting me — like pretending to choke, hit, or point a weapon?
Do I ever feel like there’s no way out — or that the situation is hopeless?
Do I feel like I’m just surviving, not living, in this relationship?
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